
In the driveway at my mom’s house is a 2001 Suburban. Tan with leather seats, fully equipped with the soccer mom tv, seat massagers and a 3rd row that folds into the floor. She was convinced by the media, family members, and friends that since she had a lot of kids, a Suburban was the car for her. She longed for this car and scraped and saved and scraped and saved until she got her prize. The Suburban, or Brown as she calls it, has had a lot of miles and work put into it. After a few minor problems finally there was an accident. A little smashed in the front but still recognizable and not functional at all, Brown still resides in the driveway. If people come over, even Mom, there is only one parking spot now because of all the space Brown takes up. Notice I said if people come over. No one really wants to circle the block for a parking space and walk down the block to her house. People have to rearrange their cars around Brown because even though it does her no good, she will not get rid of it. We told her to junk it, sell it, burn it, or give it to the car Gods. Just do anything to get it out of the way, but she is standing firm. Brown has done so much for her in the past that she can’t possibly get rid of it. Brown was there when she moved from her rental house to her home. Brown was there, going hard, on those harsh winter days to get her back and forth to work in 13 inches of snow. Brown was there for her through thick and thin, however the key word is WAS there. Brown does nothing now but take up space and remind her of how things USED to be.
A lot people are in similar situations. It may not be Brown, or a car but we still have things in our lives that do nothing but take up space and cause problems. Friends, jobs, boyfriends/girlfriends are sometimes factors in our everyday lives that we are holding on to simply out of habit simply because we have been told not to give up on things or people and that some things are meant to last forever. Because of that we put more and more work into creating these lasting relationships under the impression that when you come by something good, give your all to make it last. This is true, but we also have to operate under the following belief system. People are put into your life for a reason or a season. Every job, friend or person that comes into our life is not meant to be around forever. Sometimes you have use situations for the season they were given to you, learn you lesson, incorporate it into your life and keep it moving. You could possibly miss out on blessings and other avenues because you are too busy working on something that isn’t meant to last.
It’s the responsibility of each and every person to look into their driveway and see who is useful and who is taking up space. Who or what are you holding onto simply because you are used to having it there? Who or what are you holding onto simply because you have been through everything together and one day things will be right? Who is useful to you and who is taking up space? Who is there to encourage, uplift, support and motivate you and who is there to show you that you have to be careful to your trust, show you that love is blind, or teach you some other lesson? Ask this question of everybody in your life: Are you here for a reason or a season??












8 comments:
I JUST RECENTLY LET GO OF MY BOYFRIEND BECAUSE HE WAS USELESS TO ME AND MY FAMILY.... AT FIRST I DIDN'T WANT TO BECAUSE I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER FIND SOMEONE WITH THE QUALITIES THAT HE HAS THAT MADE ME HAPPY BUT I REALIZED I HAD TO DROP HIM IN ORDER TO FIND THAT PERFECT MAN.... DON'T WAIT TIL THIS SEASONAL PERSON MESSES UP YOUR SEASON TO REALIZE THEY SHOULD'VE BEEN GONE TWO SEASONS AGO....THAT WAS THE TRUTH
ouch @ "useless to me and my family."
I THINK THAT WAS THE BEST IDEA TO LEAVE HIM ALONE. IN ORDER TO FIND HAPPINESS, YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF AND SOMEWHAT GET YOURSELF TOGETHER TO COME TO THE TABLE IN MOST AREAS IN ORDER TO FIND HAPPINESS AND THE GOOD QUALITIES IN A MAN. POSITIVE ATTRACTS POSITIVE!!!!!!
I agree. Still a sobering thought that those who you love most are sometimes temporary figures in your life.
Tabernacle (c) Lupe (Loop) Fiasco.
Makes me think...
a lot of people needed to hear this! sometimes it's hard to let go of something you've worked so hard to get...even when they're no use to you. even when they no longer have anything to offer you and in most cases they're not even making you happy anymore. i know someone in this situation and because they don't want to put their significant other out on their ass they stay in the situation. that's understandable but at some point you have to realize that you're only hurting yourself by continuing to "help" them and allowing them to take up space in your life.
as much as we try to overlook it and ignore the warning signs or red flags, some people are only supposed to be in your life for a season. it sucks because you never know which are here to stay and which are here temporary but that's the chance you take. go into each situation clear-minded and learn what you can from it. take the important lessons with you and discard the bullshit. in the end it makes you a better person and you'll be that much better to the one person who's meant to be there forever!
that's my two cents.
i'm looking thru my closet...time to let these clothes that i haven't worn in over two months go...
I've been wondering why my someone who was my bestfriend for 3 years (I mean we were inseparable) would so easily be offended by a comment made and just never speak to me a gain. I know that people sometimes come in our lives for a season but it never clicked until I read this. So from this moment I'm letting it go. Thank you The Truth
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