I think in just about every relationship there's that point in time where you just don't ever get enough of each other. Whenever you wake up you're thinking about her, when you're having breakfast you're thinking about him, you go to work, you hear a song, you see a movie, no matter what is going on in your life it reminds you of that special someone and reminds you that you just can't wait for another opportunity to see him/her again.
I get that. Budding relationships are awesome. You get to know somebody new, an opportunity to start with a new slate, to make up for whatever wreckage you left behind in your past failed relationships. The idea that this one may be the one that sticks is ever present in your mind, filling your head with bubbly images of all that old stuff that you'll get to do as if for the first time all over again. First dates, first sexual experience, first time meeting each others friends and families, first time experimenting to see just how fucking freaky this chick/guy is willing to be with you. The possibilities are endless, and the notions excite you....yeah i get that too.
Fast forward 6-9 months later and you find yourself in bit of a routine. Comfortable for some, and down right torturous for others, in any case you now know everything there is to know about each other short of those small idiosyncrasies that most people only find out about once they live together, shit you've even peeped out a few of those. Now that everything's gone from fun and exciting to normal and mundane, how do you keep the spice? How do you keep from becoming too comfortable in your own position that you either become claustrophobic and need to break free, or down right bored and need to seek excitement elsewhere? The answer is simple...
SPACE! Regardless of your status, boyfriend and girlfriend, fiances, husband and wife, everybody at some time or another is going to need their own space. There's only so much that two people can talk about together before they either run out of words or find something to argue about and either way you end up wanting to be in the company of other people, just on the wrong terms. Implement the ability for each person to have his or her own me time where the significant other is not involved, I guarantee it'll work wonders for you. That old saying that "Distance makes the heart grow fonder" wasn't created solely for those retards trying to force a failing long distance relationship to work. It's a simple adage that speaks to the power of allowing each other the opportunity to miss one another.
Too many women lay up under their man all day and all night and then wonder why the first time he go out without you he try to stay out aaaaaaall night without calling or checking in. Then they go complaining to their friends that their dude never thinks about them when he's out. Or, too many men trying too hard to handcuff their women, trying to dumb down their clothes, and put restrictions on what friends they can and cannot talk to then wonder why facebook is full of ratchet ass pictures of your girl wildin' out off that red dot first time her and her girls go to the club. Release the reigns a bit, relax a little and give your significant other the space to breathe. Allow him or her the time needed to hang out with their own friends without you always tagging along, getting all angry on the inside when you don't get the seemingly hilarious inside jokes.
Think back to the time when you guys first started, when each of you had your own lives to run and cherished the small amounts of time that you could allot for each other to meet up. Go back to that, don't get so wrapped up in your relationships that you don't know how to be yourself or operate on your own. Distance does indeed make the heart grow fonder, so do yourself a favor and take some time out for yourself, provide yourself with a couple hours a week where you don't even talk to your significant other. Supply each other with the necessary means to actually miss each other. Then when you do finally meet back up tell me you don't run into some of the best sex and the most awesome mouf you've had in a while...You can leave a comment here to thank me later, until then you're welcome.
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