efinit On Fatherhood...

Who was the first man in your life that you looked up to? Who was the man who taught you the breaks and the facts of life? Who was the man you aspired to emulate? For most, that man is/was their father. For the rest of us, that answer varies. In fact, there might be a different or multiple answers to each of those questions. Believe it or not, I never really reflected on these questions until now.

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Melz Father's Day...

Gentlemen, let me begin this by saying, no one has the blueprint or the correct way to raise a child. Throughout history we've seen serial killers that came from great parents and we've seen some of the best and brightest people in the world come from poor beginnings and even poorer parents.

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The Melz Experience: The Principles Of How To Be A Better Wingman

Enough with the mushy stuff, it's time to address those of you who choose not to go the family route and are strictly in it to get your stats up. I haven't been married all my life, there was actually a time when I was single and not looking to get married. During that time I had the pleasure of working along side some gentlemen who understood that dating in groups require sacrifice, smarts, and cunning maneuvering in order to reach a common goal. It's a lost art that I see being replaced with an every man for himself mentality. I'm speaking of course of "The Wingman". * cue "Highway To The Dangerzone" *

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The Melz Experience: Teaching Evolution To Future Generations

The talk of the world recently has been Washington Wizards center Jason Collins 'coming out' to the world in a Sports Illustrated piece and the revelation that he's the first gay athlete in the 'Big 4' sports (MLB, NHL, NFL, NBA). The usual public discourse began as most Americans applauded Collins' announcement and the usual "insensitive" (perceived or otherwise) comments flowed from the computers and mobile devices of everyone from NFL players to commentators about their "beliefs". No matter where you stand on the homosexuality debate, I believe that it is time to have an open discussion -- at least, for the sake of our children.

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3 Ways Young Men Must Get Real About Dating In The Digital Age

If you are single and reading this, I want you to know that there is still hope for you. All is not lost. I have not been on the dating scene for several years now. Most of my "single moments" are through living vicariously through the very few single friends I have remaining. And from all indications and reports from these friends, it sounds and looks like, at least to this observer, that its hard as hell for you single folks. Let's discuss...

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Runner On First

When I left you last, I stepped away from fatherhood for a minute to give my take on a day of no real significance to me. This past Saturday was indeed a day to remember. It was a breakthrough moment in my journey through fatherhood and a day of excitement and validation for my main man, Eli.

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Smut & Marriage: When To Give It Up? ...The Smut, That Is

We're doing a lot of grown man talk around here lately. And we'll have fun stuff as well as items that we feel men should be aware of today. Some will come from what's happening in the news, some will come from wisdom past down from the OG's and a lot will be our direct experiences. Enter: The Melz Experience.

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Valentine's Day Faux Pas

Fellas, asking a woman to be your Valentine doesn't mean she's your girlfriend. Who actually asks a lady to be their Valentine anymore? You might as well get your #2 pencil and notebook paper out and pass the girl a note with Yes/No check boxes. Just remember, this is 2013. The idea of courtship went away about 10 years ago. Keep up, guys. You need to stay in your lane and know what NOT to do on that day so as to prevent disaster.

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